I was given an interesting assignment in one of my classes last week. We were asked to write our own obituary. Now at first I thought this was an easy task. I began to think about what I would want mine to say about me. What points in my life I would want highlighted and what parts of my life I would want forgotten. I thought about what it would say about me if I was to die today, and then I decided to think about what I would want my life to say about me in the many years to come.
I decided that I may be able to use this exercise to help direct my future in a small way. So I wrote an obituary for me in 40 years time. It still mentioned many of the things my one for today did. The same incredible family and friends that I love and that I have been fortunate enough to have love me. They will always be dear to my heart and an important part of who I am and what my life is about.
I then thought about the things I would like to accomplish in the years to come, that would make a statement about what was important to me, what and who I cared about, how I spent the time God gave me. I have kept a copy of the obituary so that I can refer to it to keep my life on track. I want to make a difference in peoples lives. I want my life to be a life of love, compassion, understanding.
I know people who seem to get their happiness from trying to tear others down, seeming to get joy from the pain they cause. It took me a long time to realize that those type of people are really the most miserable of all. I could never understand how they could live with themselves but now I wonder what their lives will really have meant. To have fame or money or power means nothing if you had to hurt others to get it. What do any of those things mean when others are starving, sad or in need of comfort? When I am done my life, hopefully many many years from now I hope that it was a life of love and kindness. I hope that all who knew me felt better about themselves and life through my actions.
I love inspiring quotes, since I have little wisdom of my own to share, I thought I would share other peoples 🙂
Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to yourself and others.- Buddha
Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.- Denis Waitley
Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves.- Helen Keller
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.- Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama
There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life — happiness, freedom, and peace of mind — are always attained by giving them to someone else.- Peyton Conway March
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.- Mohandas K. Gandhi
The greatest part of our happiness depends on our dispositions, not our circumstances.- Martha Washington
Many of the happiest people I know have very little material possessions, they are not well known or rich, they simply live their lives with love, gratitude and compassion for others. It took me a really long time to become happy, to find true happiness. I had to endure and go through some of the darkest and most painful losses in my life to find where my happiness lies. My circumstances are not perfect. There are some things that I wish were different in my life. There are two family members I would have close to me if I could change things…but when I do see them again I will be a better person because since losing them I have found happiness, a purpose in my life, true friends and learned to truly appreciate the love of my family and friends. I have realized how little the opinions of others matter, it is how I live my life that matters. I am a better mom, daughter, sister and friend because I have found peace and happiness after the storms of my life. I hope when my day comes to leave this mortal life that my life will testify of my love for my daughter, parents, brother, sista and fellow man. That I will have been the source of happiness and peace for others through living the best life I can.
What do you hope your life will tell others when all is said and done?